Friday, July 5, 2013

Ever been to CrazyTown?

Who came up with "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"? Whoever they are, they lied. I actually believed that when I was a kid, but life has a way of showing you that a little nursery rhyme is far from the truth.

I've always been a bit sarcastic. I've always had a way of using my words to inflict pain whenever I am angry. At times, I've used my words to inflict pain on those who don't deserve it, those who have been closet to me. People usually hurt those closet to them. Not saying that it's right but I can see how that happens. Those closet to us see us, the real us, bare bones and all. Sometimes what we show them is pretty, sometimes it's jacked up, sometimes it's just plain UGLY.

I've used my words sometimes to cover up what I am really feeling. This happened in a recent encounter with the person closet to me. Instead of me simply saying what I was feeling, I went from point A to point XTBECCGOXLA (yeah that probably doesn't exist, my point exactly). Yikes! I clearly went to CrazyTown, as a good friend of mine describes it. She says " we all have a bit of CrazyTown in us. Be a visitor, not a permanent resident".

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On this recent visit to CrazyTown, the minute I opened my mouth, I knew that I was wrong. Yet, I didn't stop. That made me awful, to hear the Voice telling me to stop but yet I kept going. Once all of the venom was out, I felt disgusted with myself.

The next morning, I asked God for the words to say to express why I said the things I said. He didn't say "why are you asking me now, you didn't ask me last night". Ha! Instead, certain scriptures were brought to my remembrance, things I had learned in a relationship class I had taken last year.

Over the past few years, I have worked to quickly acknowledge my fault in matters. So, I've accomplished that. Now, I need to work on words I use to express that fault.

Another reason why I continue to work on using my words for good is that I have two folks who are always looking at what I do and listening to what I say: Yogli and Hummingbird. They both have sharp tongues (got it naturally) but I want them to use that sharp tongue only when necessary. Yeah, I know, you probably thought I was going to say "use that sharp tongue never". Nope. I believe that there are instances where some people need to hear some sharp words. I guess I am saying I want them to be able to control how they use their words.

So, I've passed through CrazyTown, hoping to hold off on my next visit. However, if I visit again, I will have better control on how long I visit. I've donated this sign for CrazyTown to put on its streets:
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22 comments:

  1. So true, so true. This is my life every day. Asking the Lord to help me with what I say and how I say it. I found you on the blog hop. Nice to meet you!

    Gina @ Gina's Craft corner
    http://ginascraftcorner.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Gina, thanks for stopping by. It truly is a daily journey to watch our mouths. Love the jean backpack you posted, my 7 year old would love that!

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  2. We could all stand to watch how we say certain things!!! Thanks for this post!!

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    1. You are most welcome, Mrs. Pancakes! It's hard sometimes but I think I am making progress.

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  3. Your friend is on point because we can all travel to crazy town if need be, but like you, I try to stay in control of my reactions to people and let them know how I'm feeling.

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    1. Hi Joi! I think by expressing how we feel, we are being vulnerable. I suffered with an inability to be vulnerable for so long, my husband has truly helped me overcome that, God knows who to send your way to perfect the things that concern us.

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  4. I think we've all been there a time or two. Love the name of your blog! Stopping by from the hop. Have a great week.

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    1. Hi Dawn, thanks for stopping by!

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  5. This makes me think of "being as wise as a serpent yet as harmless as a dove." That is a scripture for sure but I can't remember where it is at the moment. :) The tongue for sure is the hardest thing to tame. As women I feel like it can be that much harder since we tend to be the emotional ones. I mean, really, with all the hormonal changes our bodies go through, it's no wonder we tend to be that much more emotional :) Thanks for sharing this story. Also was a pleasure having you link up with us on the Mommy Monday blog hop. Have an extraordinary week! <3

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    1. Brittnei, you know my A type personality had to look up that scripture! That is it exactly, Matthew 10:16, using words wisely and still getting the point across.

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  6. Great points to remember!Visiting from the GFC Hop! =)

    Stephanie @ BeeTreeStudios
    http://BeeTreeStudios.com

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    1. Hi Stephanie! Thanks for visiting. I am trying to get my hands on the Photoshop Suite, think I may have it by next week. I saw that you design scrapbook paper, which is what I want to learn how to do. Awesome! I am following you now, so can't wait to see what you come up with next.

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  7. Boy, we definitely have a lot in common!! I was born with a sharp tongue too. However, I've had to control it over the years (some of it came true, YIKES!). After awhile of doing that, I've been very choosy in what I say, almost to the point that people think I am P.C. now. Boy am I glad too, because just like you, I've got 2 others watching me as well! Thanks so much for sharing with us @ My Favorite Posts SHOW OFF Weekend Blog Party!

    Jessica
    The Wondering Brain

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    1. I think we were separated at birth! I've been able to control it and still be myself. Others notice it and are sometimes surprised when I don't strike back at other people!

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  8. Yeah, it's important to be respectful to people, even when they are not respectful to you. It's the way Jesus would want us to live. I think this topic is a very important one - just in getting us (humans in general) to have better and more healthy relationships.

    We have a problem.

    Plus, your children follow you uncritically. They look up to you and imitate what you do. We must teach them good core values. Going off on someone isn't a good characteristic to have. Self control and mutual respect, however is.

    Thanks so much for this post. It really speaks to me.

    Also, thank you for linking up to the Mommy Monday Blog hop. It was so nice seeing you there and I hope you come back week after week and link up with us.

    I will be following you on any and all social media outlets we are not yet connected on (not sure if there is any).

    Thanks again and have a wonderful rest of the week!

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    1. Thanks, Lisa, glad I found your hop and thanks for hosting!

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    2. Shoot, I just deleted my whole comment. Lord knows we've all spent a little time in Crazy Town Tiffany. Especially us Southern Girls. These old tongues of ours can get us in a lot of trouble. They can be used to lift people up or destroy them. It's all a matter of praying for God to teach us to control. Thanks for posting this and giving me pause for thought. I love your blog by the way and your Crazy Town sign. I just stopped by from Purex Insiders and now I'm a new follower.

      Have a fun weekend.
      ♥… Tracy@CottonPickinCute

      P.S. Next week I'm having a Celebrate Summer giveaway, with a different giveaway starting every day for 5 days. Stop by and check it out. There are some great prizes!!!

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    3. Hey Tracy! Yes, maybe there is a correlation between southern babes and sharp tongues. I am excited to be a part of the Purex Insiders, hoping that they get a button soon so that we can display on our blogs.

      Followed you back :-)

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  9. I am also a member of the Purex Insiders.

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  10. Love this site. Too cute! Tasting your words before they come out...whew! That is something I learned the hard way years ago. I'm pretty good at it when it comes to my hubby but outside of marriage...still working on that for sure! #needabetterfilter

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  11. Hi. Stopping by from the hop. Very thought provoking post!!
    Love your blog :)
    www.rozziki.com

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  12. Wow, way to hit it home girl. Preach. Totally what I needed to read this Monday. Thank you!

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